Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Relationships

Today was a good day :) I’m really enjoying work right now. For those of you who don’t know I’m currently doing something a little different for Walgreens. I’m traveling around to different stores remodeling them with a team of 20 people. It’s a lot of work and messy but the time goes by so quickly and I’m having fun. It feels like extreme home makeover but Walgreens edition. We are completely gutting and redoing each store in 1 week and get this the store stays open the entire time! I also really like the people I’m working with...each store in the district sent an employee so I’m meeting a lot of new people. Over the years I’ve worked in several stores and as I’m going on to my 7th year with Walgreens naturally I’m seeing some familiar faces too. It turns out I’ve worked with one of my managers 3 years ago in Swansboro, NC. What a small world. I also like the fact that we take lunch breaks in just 2 shifts. This means instead of eating alone and entertaining myself with my phone that I’m in contact with way too much I get to eat with 9 other people. I enjoy lunch conversations well conversations in general..I just like to talk haha.


During lunch the other day I was catching up with a guy I used to work with a year ago when he asked “So Samantha, do you still think guys you’re with shouldn’t work and you get to make all the money?” ...what a strange thing to remember me by. Depending on when we met most people remember me as the Tinkerbell girl, Disney girl, crazy contacts, cheerleader, girl who talks too much...etc...but this was strange to me. It makes you think what do people remember you by and what do you want them to remember you by (just something to think about)

I told him that since we’ve last worked together I no longer want that. As mentioned a few months ago in my Royal Wedding post I want my “prince” to have a job. I felt like it was selfish and unhealthy to want a guy not to work. One of my ex’s even told me that I was demasculinizing....ouch. Over the past few months I’ve been thinking a lot about the roles of men and women in society and in relationships. Women have become stronger leaders and much more independent of men than they were in the past. So why is it still strange to see a Woman working and a man not...why would the man feel less of man if men and women are equal? I really struggle here...I’ve asked several people this question and no one has been able to give me an answer that was good enough. Well JD answered this question for me clearly this week.. “Because God says so”

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:22-24

For a healthy relationship, we serve our spouse in playing the role God has given us to play in marriage. I realize I’m not referring to marriage when talking about my relationships but I feel the people you date are potential spouses...therefore the same roles apply. Guys lead, girls submit.

To be honest at first I didn’t like hearing this at all...because if God says so then it’s right. I can’t go around living my life in accordance to only the parts of His word that I like. That wouldn’t be giving total control to him. I shouldn’t need any more explanation but me being human I couldn’t wrap my head around the idea of submitting to a guy in this day and age. I felt like it’d take away from my independence or something...but JD explained it in a way that allowed me to come to terms with all of this. In a marriage, guys are the leaders but should lead in a way that takes into consideration the girls..thoughts, feelings, wisdom..etc. God’s not saying everything should be a compromise but guys are not to be dictators over their wives either. Its not “Honey, anything you say.” Submitting to your husband doesn’t mean you’re inferior, weak or unimportant. Submission is God’s call to a wife to show her love for her husband. Husbands lead in a way that serves her(the wife)---this brings Glory to God. Thinking of it this way makes submission less demeaning and something I could work to live by.

In some of my past relationships I’ve come across as controlling as one guy said “demasculinizing” but I think my future relationships will be different..

Let it all be for His Glory.

Sorry this was a strange post but it’s been on my mind and it helps to write :)

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2 comments:

Tap said...

Tough thoughts on submission. Of course, as a guy, if I ever marry, St. Paul says I have to love my wife like Christ loves the church, laying down his life...

Something you skipped past was that equality doesn't mean being identical. Genesis says "... God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them." I believe men and women each show different aspects of God's image, by nature. If you start looking at it that way you might start thinking that raising women to act just like men is actually robbing them of what God intends for them.

Another thought I came across recently, that may help: there's an argument that women shouldn't wait to be rescued (especially in stories), as if they were just a prize to be won. The counterargument is that the man doesn't rescue her to have a prize, he rescues her because she's worth it, to honor her.

Just my two cents I guess. :)

Anonymous said...

good points. thank you :)

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